I have often thought, "I could really do this stay at home mom gig much better if I wasn't interrupted every five minutes with a MOOOOMMMM!" If there's anything that can drive me CRAZY within 15 minutes of waking up, it is the MOOOOMMM! which is now sometimes coming from five different directions. (Well, one of them calls me Laura, and one expresses disapproval by fussing, but it's all the same.) :o)
One of the Catholic Moms in our Facebook group shared this last week and I absolutely love it.
I'm not going to lie. There are days (especially this time of year) that living as a hermit in the Sahara Desert like Carlo Carretto sounds like winning the lottery. But, that is not where God put me.
He wants me here--smack dab in the middle of all of these "bells" which definitely show me that time is not my own!
I'm thankful for all of these "bells," I really am. I just wish they weren't quite
so loud right away in the morning. :o)
We all have these calls to work, service, or other responsibilities in our lives. Let's all try to look at these as opportunities answer these calls with a little more (genuine) enthusiasm.
I'll try if you will. :o)
The Domestic Can Be The Monastic
Carlo Carretto, one of the leading spiritual writers of the past half
century, lived for more than a dozen years as a hermit in the Sahara
Desert, alone with the Blessed Sacrament for company, milking a goat
for his food, and translating the Bible into the local Bedouin
language. He prayed for long hours by himself.
Returning to Italy one day to visit his mother, he came to a
startling realization. His mother, who for more than 30 years of her
life had been so busy raising a family that she scarcely ever had a
private minute for herself, was more contemplative than he was.
Carretto, though was careful to draw the right lesson from this. What
this taught was not that there was anything wrong with what he had
been doing living as a hermit. The lesson was rather that there was
something wonderfully right about what his mother was doing all these
years as she lived the interrupted life amid the noise and incessant
demands of small children. He had been in a monastery, but so had
she.
What is a monastery?
A monastery is not so much a place set apart for
monks and nuns as it
is a place set apart (period). It is also a
place to learn the value of powerlessness and a place to learn that
time is not ours, but God's.
Our home and our duties can, just like a monastery teach us those
things.
For example, the mother who stays home with small children
experiences a very real withdrawal from the world. Her existence is
definitely monastic. Her tasks and preoccupations remove her from the
centers of power and social importance. And she feels it.
Moreover, the demands of young children also provide her with what
St. Bernard, one of the great architects of monasticism, called
the "monastic bell". All monasteries have a bell. Bernard, in
writing his rules for monasticism told his monks that whenever the
monastic bell rang they were to drop whatever they were doing and go
immediately to the particular activity (prayer, meals, work, study,
sleep) to which the bell was summoning them. He was adamant that they
respond immediately, stating that if they were writing a letter they
were to stop in mid-sentence when the bell rang. The idea in his mind
was that when the bell called, it called you to the next task and you
were to respond immediately, not because you want to, but because
it's time, it's God's time.
For him, the monastic bell was intended
as a discipline to stretch the heart by always taking you beyond your
own agenda to God's agenda.
Hence, a mother rearing children, perhaps in a more privileged way
even than a professional contemplative is forced, almost against her
will, to constantly stretch her heart. For years, while rearing
children, her time is never her own, her own needs have to be kept in
second place and every time she turns around a hand is reaching out
and demanding something. She hears the monastic bell many times
during the day and she has to drop things in mid-sentence and
respond, not because she wants to, but because it's time for that
activity and time isn't her time, but God's time.
The rest of us experience the monastic bell each morning when our
alarm clock rings and we get out of bed and ready ourselves for the
day, not because we want to, but because it's time. Response to duty
can be monastic prayer, a needy hand can be a monastic bell, and
working without status and power can constitute a withdrawal into a
monastery where God can meet us. The domestic can be the monastic.
By Fr. Ron Rolheiser, OMI, Seattle, WA
The Catholic Northwest Progress,
Jan. 18, 2001
